This morning I heard that some 30% – 35% of you still plan to vote for Donald Trump in the November 8th presidential election. I was, needless to say, appalled. I do not understand why any self-respecting woman would even consider casting a vote for the most misogynistic character ever to be seen in the public eye.
I have a number of female friends who claim they will vote for him, and I have asked several of them to please explain their reasons to me. The responses have not been enlightening. I have been told that it is “none of [my] business,” I have been informed that he “tells it like it is,” that he will “make America great again,” and a host of other slogans used by the Trump campaign. But all of that tells me nothing. Actually, it does tell me something: it tells me that these women are parroting what they hear rather than thinking for themselves. Yet, I am still left without an answer to my question. So, I turned to my old friend, the Internet, for answers and here is what I found:
- Many believe Trump is different from the one presented on television screens nationwide
- Many pointed to Trump’s successful and popular children as the measure of his character
- Some said he reminded them of their own fathers or husbands
- Some said they saw Trump in themselves
- Others said that gender should have nothing to do with voting for president
- A few said they think he will change his tone and demeanor if elected
- Marsha Blackburn of Tennessee explained that “women are used to being talked about in demeaning ways.”
- Even former girlfriend Rowanne Brewer Lane, who earlier described a ‘debasing face-to-face encounter’ between herself and Mr. Trump in 1991, says she plans to vote for him. She says his ‘soaring ambition’ is what draws women to him.
After a couple of hours spent digging for answers to my question, I am still in the dark as to why any woman would vote for Donald Trump.
For centuries it was believed that women were not intelligent enough to vote for elected officials, that they were best suited for raising children, cooking, and maintaining a clean household. They did not need a college education to do those things, did not even need to know how to read well, and thus they would never understand political processes and matters of government. I thought we had risen above that myth. Perhaps for some of you, the myth is the reality.
To respond to some of the reasons listed above, I would start by saying that he may be a different person in private than in public … most of us are. However, it is the person we see in the media that we are being asked to vote against or for, and that public persona is ugly and ‘nasty,’ inside and out.
His children are successful because they inherited their money and their success … they are riding on daddy’s coattails. And frankly, dear sister, if wealth is your only criteria for success, I am ashamed to call you ‘sister.’ They are just as cruel and inhumane as their father.
If Donald Trump reminds you of your father or husband, then God help you, poor woman. The same if you can see any elements of Trump in yourself.
While gender, like race, should not be the only criteria for selecting the president, it is certainly an important consideration. Do you like only earning 80% (or less) of what a man who is doing the same job earns? Do you like being turned down for jobs or promotions because you are a woman? Do you like men telling you what to do with your body, your health?
Donald Trump will not change his tone or demeanor if elected. Leopards do not change their spots; evil people do not suddenly become decent humanitarians. If you seriously believe he will change, please contact me via email, as I have a beautiful bridge in Brooklyn I would like to sell you.
And as for ‘women are used to being talked about in demeaning ways’, I say bullshit! I can speak only for myself, but the one thing I have not encountered in any major way is being demeaned because I am a woman! I have been criticized for things I have done, or views I hold, but I cannot recall ever once being demeaned or criticized because I am a woman. To any woman who is ‘used to’ this, I say you need to re-assess your friends, relationships, and perhaps your own sense of self-esteem!
I will never forget one day, many years ago, answering the telephone and hearing a male voice say that he was calling about the boat for sale. Well, we did not even own a boat, much less have one for sale, and I told him that. He said, “Are you sure?” Yes, I was sure. After a pause, he said, “May I speak to your husband?” Apparently, he either thought that being a woman, I was too stupid to know whether there was something as unnoticeable as a boat in the driveway, or he thought I was lying to him, or he thought hubby was maybe hiding the boat from me!
For many years, women fought for the right to vote, then for equal opportunities in education and the workplace, and more recently for women’s healthcare and the right to make our own healthcare choices. And yet, 30% of my fellow women are willing to throw away all that we and those who went before us have fought for in the last two centuries! I am ashamed. If you, as a woman, are planning to vote for Donald Trump, I do not hate you. I pity you, and I have no respect for you. And I hope that, if you have daughters, they will grow into stronger, more intelligent women with a higher sense of self-esteem than their mothers.