Is It Really Worth All This????

I and others have written at length about the political, economic and international results of a Trump in the Oval Office, but there is another aspect, another manner in which he has had a negative effect on the nation.  There is a social & cultural upheaval the can mostly be traced to Trump & Co. A while back, July 4th, to be exact, I wrote a post about some of the purchasing trends that could be attributed to Trump, such as the sale of alcohol and bomb shelters, dystopian books and Swiss watches having significantly increased.  This post looks more at the social, cultural trends that have shifted or been affected by Trump.

First, there is the effect on marriages, especially those in which one is pro-Trump and the other is not.  Marriage counselors recounted watching this dynamic play out in their offices. While some couples try to work through their differences, others — both young and old — find their differences too huge to overcome.  New York divorce lawyer Lois Brenner has counseled about a dozen couples over the last few months who cite political differences for their marital woes. “I’ve been doing this for about 35 years, and I have never seen anything like it, It’s kind of amazing. It’s really surprising and astounding … This is kind of unprecedented.” Interracial couples are having their share of problems also, when one supports Trump and thus his policies, certain of which are detrimental to non-whites.

On the flip side … there has also been an unprecedented surge in marriages immediately following Trump’s election.  In November, the New York City clerk’s office issued 6,929 marriage licenses, a 23 percent increase from November 2015, and performed 4,590 ceremonies, an increase of almost 19 percent. Then through Dec. 23, the office issued 5,682 licenses, up almost 16 percent from about the same time period last year. Many of these are couples where one partner is in the U.S. on a visa and their fear was that Donald Trump would make good on his ‘promises’ of mass deportation.

In addition to immigrants feeling stress from Trump’s threats, the LGBT community is also feeling it.  A recent article in Rolling Stone begins …

“The number of calls, texts and online chats made by transgender youth has more than doubled in the wake of President Trump’s tweet about banning transgender service members and the announcement of the Texas “bathroom bill,” according to a report recently released by The Trevor Project, a national organization that offers crisis intervention for LGBTQ youth.”

According to Amit Paley, the CEO and Executive Director of The Trevor Project, “Anti-LGBTQ rhetoric and legislation directly leads to crisis among our community’s young people. While the Trevor Project will continue to be there for them around the clock, our elected officials must stop throwing young people into crisis for political gain. Discrimination is un-American, and we will hold to account those legislators who attack the most vulnerable members of the LGBTQ community.”

And then there is the effect on our health.  In June, several media outlets, including U.S. News and NBC News reported on an article in The New England Journal of Medicine:

Health Effects of Dramatic Societal Events — Ramifications of the Recent Presidential Election 

“Events linked to the recent presidential campaign and election have given rise to fear and anxiety in many Americans. Research suggests that these events can have negative health effects on people who have been direct targets of what they perceive as hostility or discrimination and on individuals and communities who feel vulnerable because they belong to a stigmatized, marginalized, or targeted group. It is worth exploring the scientific research in this area and considering its implications for health care providers.”

The article goes on to identify a number of areas in which Trump-related stress is occurring, such as:

  • Increased racial hostility
  • Community-level prejudice
  • Hostility in the larger environment
  • Hostility toward immigrants
  • Worries about reductions in health and social services

And the American College of Physicians says that Trump’s policies on environmental issues, especially climate change, will affect the health of many.

“The elderly, the sick, and the poor are especially vulnerable. Climate change needs to be aggressively addressed on a global level, and the Paris accord is central to this effort. Without U.S. leadership, achieving the voluntary targets agreed to by the 195 countries that signed the accord will be far more difficult. Today’s decision therefore greatly increases the chances that the global effort to reduce carbon emissions will be insufficient to avert catastrophic consequences for human health.”

Norman Lear, creator of All in the Family, recently compared the Trump administration to Archie Bunker … watch this 42 second clip and see if you agree!

Lear actually tweeted that clip on Friday evening after Trump advisor Stephen Miller created a spectacle when he went off on reporter Jim Acosta over the words on the Statue of Liberty.

From a personal perspective, I can say that I have lost a number of friends due to the polarization of Trump’s candidacy and now presidency, and I know of many others who say the same.  I used to “do lunch” with a group of friends at least once a month, but we no longer do those … or perhaps they do and I am no longer invited … I don’t know.  I am more stressed, my temper has a shorter fuse, and I cry more easily.

So, just to name a few, Trump’s tenure in the Oval Office is causing an increase in some marriages, an increase in the divorce rate, a decline in friendships, increased health problems, and an increase in suicidal tendencies among some groups. WOW!  Is it really worth all this?

49 thoughts on “Is It Really Worth All This????

  1. Great Article! Administration, whether intentionally or unintentionally, is orchestrating a major culture change…or at least making the fringe cultures of white supremacy, islamaphobia, xenophobia, zealous ignorance, and racism and prejudice in general “acceptable.”

    A large number of friends from my days in the military are Trump supporters. One of the reasons I have eschewed Facebook, so as not to burn bridges; though I am often tempted to do so. It is however, hard not to classify all Trump voters in the same camp of deplorables (no matter how much I try to reason that this is not the case – I found most of my Trump-Supporting friends are merely Anti-Hillary). Needless to say, there are a lot of blocked “friends” on Facebook to spare me their own brand of pro-Trump rhetoric.

    Still a big cause for depression and anxiety…especially for those that already suffer from this particular malady. I think folks like yourself, that continue to write and speak up against this normalization of hate and blatant falsifications are critical and letting folks know that we are not along. We are not going insane. Stay strong and united and I think we can (hopefully) mentally survive this terrible mess.

    –Cheers 🙂

    PS: A big thing to at least be conscious of is that it can be very easy to become “addicted to outrage.” One reason to disconnect at some point in the day. I have to remind myself that Trump need not define my existence from 2016 onward.

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    • Yes, I have been ‘unfriended’ and blocked on Facebook by many in the past year. It saddens me, but then I think I am seeing a side of them that I find intolerable. Anybody who condones bigotry in any of its many forms, is not a person i choose to call ‘friend’ anyway. That said, one of my oldest friends, who is a republican and has been an ardent Trump supporter, informed me tonight that he has washed his hands of Trump and the republican party, and my heart tap-danced inside my chest! They are starting to wake up … they really are!!!

      Like yourself, I have to be careful, for the tendency is to lump all republicans in the same ‘basket of Trump-loving deplorables’, and though I know it’s wrong, it is an easy trap to fall into. Of course, they have no trouble calling the rest of us ‘snowflakes’, but we mustn’t lower ourselves to their standards.

      Thank you so much for your supportive words! Every now and then, I need to hear that what I am doing has value, for it is easy to start feeling that one is preaching to the choir and getting nowhere with the rest.

      Cheers, my friend!

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  2. Nope! It’s going to take so long to undo the effects of a Trump presidency. From the time people began embracing him during the primaries, you could feel a shift in attitudes, or at least a shift in what people were comfortable expressing. Last week my son was talking about slavery and civil rights movement and made the comment that he was glad things aren’t bad for black people anymore. I had to explain, in the best way possible for a kid, that wasn’t true at all, nor was it true for many other minority groups. I also told him how things have gotten worse lately. He was shocked.

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    • You are so right when you say it will take a long time to undo the garbage heap Trump has created. I think at the very least, decades. The longer he is in office, the more damage he does. And now the situation, playground fight, only with highly lethal weapons, between him and Kim Jong-un. It is frightening and maddening. Poor Little Man … he is getting an early education in man’s inhumanity to man. 😥

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  3. I read that after DT’s horrible speech to the Boy Scouts at the Jamboree the leaders had to stop a quarrel that was going to turn into a fight between scouts from Texas and New York. The Jamboree is supposed to be about brotherhood and sharing. DT’s speech was to blame and he even said he received a call saying his was the best speech ever given at a Jamboree. The man is sick. It goes way beyond the lack of shame. There was no such call. — Suzanne

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    • I believe he really is sick… mentally. He is no joke. The worst thing about that Boy Scout thing was looking at the smirks on the faces of the “Boy Scouts” adults behind him. It would be interesting to look into just what the scout leaders are saying to the kids…probably a mixed bag.

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            • this is the atmosphere throughout my childhood…imminent threat of nuclear annihilation. Here’s a conspiracy theory I just made up: how can it be that the “divide” never changes more than a couple of percentage points and the polls prove it.

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                  • You are close, but not quite as far ahead of me as you believed … I am 66. But yes, this is definitely the strangest era in my memory, and in the history of this country, as far as I can tell. Trump certainly take the prize for most mentally unstable president ever. Too bad we are not in 1780s France! 🙂


                    • I was 17 when you were born. My late husband was seventeen years older than me. graduated high school in 1953, was a military wife from 1955 to 1961. either working journalist or student ever since…degrees in US and Latin American History;

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                    • I like people like you who do not let their brains stagnate! My husband was also older, though only by 9 years. And my degrees are in Accounting (put food on the table for a lot of years 🙂 ), Political Science, and, like you, mostly through a Ph.D. in International Relations. Probably never finish it … but maybe someday.


                    • I agree that our brains need exercise, just hanging out and waiting doesn’t cut it. I finished my academic work for m PhD, all of my exams were completed, and I had several draft of my dissertation. The ten-year time limit ran out, but they gave me an extra year o finish it but for various reasons I didn’t complete it. I intend to publish parts of it, but not the academic university publishing of a real book.

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                    • Or … you could start over 😉 Yes, I am teasing … I cannot imagine starting over! I am still considering completing mine, and I have a bit of time yet, but I’m not sure I can justify the time and money. Still, I take an occasional online course just to learn something new or refresh my memory. And I read voraciously (although with the amount of writing I have been doing lately, I have less time than I would like to read).


                    • You might like taking some political science or history, etc. courses at a university or college on a monitoring basis….I never did that, as I was a full-time student throughout the 1980s and 90s+ I had classes at Cleveland State and U of Akron, also the community college…where other students (60+) were enrolled as non-credit courses. Also when I had my own classes at UofA as a grad student and as adjunct faculty, a few students were of the +60 no-credit/no fee class. Some of these people are pains in the ass, of course, but most are truly interested and take full part in the courses. All of the courses I took for my bachelor’s and phd were for credit. I did have an assistantship at UofA which paid my tuition, etc. When my contract came my husband said: “they’re going to PAY you to go to school?” 🙂 I loved that guy…he was my greatest supporter and fan.

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                    • I considered that, but as I have no car, I find online courses … and there are some excellent free ones out there in MOOCs, (Massive Open Online Courses) are my best bet. I enjoy them, learn something, and it gives me a great deal of flexibility.


                    • That’s great! My daughter, who is also an RN, is just finishing her program for a B.S. in computer programming. She is planning to switch careers, for she has burned out on nursing after 20+ years.


                    • When I was working to feed my kids I managed to support them by working at the local daily/Sunday newspaper as reporter. It was full-time, but I loved that job, I had no college degree at all then, landed the job ad worked there 18 years with whatever wrting ability I had and flying by the seat of my pants. 🙂 Met and married my husband, who was chief of the fire department, and after he retired, then died, my main source of income as my Ohio police/fire pension.

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                    • With your journalistic skills, have you ever given any thought to doing some freelance writing? I always thought I would enjoy that, and have done a few op-eds here and there, but would love to do more. I think you would be great at it!


                    • yes. Freelancing covers various pursuits, like travel articles, Sunday spreads, feature stories, and photos. Many newspapers welcome freelance contributions, and some will even pay for them. This has been my life…now I concentrate on my blog, which in many ways is freelancing.

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    • His remarks at the boy scout event were so inappropriate that I doubt he will ever be invited back. And no, there was no phone call. When he gave a speech in Poland, he claimed they told him it was the best speech ever given by an American president, but that was a lie also … they mocked and ridiculed him. Yes, I believe he has a mental illness, which makes him a loose cannon and so unfit for this job!


  4. Dear Jill,
    Preach away to the choir. We need to amplify the voices who refuse to accept DDT’s presence in the WH as resembling anything near normal and we need to prop each other up. I still make at least one contact per say with US lawmakers. I tweet everyday to a handful of legislators. It is helpful for me to know that I am not alone.
    Hugs, Gronda.

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  5. Jill, where do you begin? The Archie tirade is emblematic, but it is less funny with the man-child in charge. John Oliver pulled out a clip of Stephen Miller speaking in college where he on essence it was OK if he made a mess, that is why we have janitors to clean up. Miller is also one of the authors of the disastrous roll out of the first travel ban. Not only was it unconstitutional, its execution was horrendous, but I guess that is why we have janitors to clean up Miller’s messes. Keith


  6. Perseverance through any adversity is a remarkable and admirable quality. It is what you do best Jill, and despite the awful societal trends, there are plenty of people just like you Jill. But many of them are silently biting their lips, while you have picked up the ‘standard’ to voice your concerns. You have a big audience who agree with you and they will do their quiet bit to make sure that all the moral standards are not completely flushed down the toilet.

    I feel a limerick coming on to lighten the mood…

    The Whitehouse has a Buffoon
    Who has all the charisma of a ‘Loon’
    We shall call him out
    And shake him about
    And flush out the white house very soon!

    Keep the faith!


  7. Archie Bunker had a soul… I keep hoping I will wake up one day from this weird, surreal nightmare. In the meantime, I’ll just keep being amazed at all the weirdness, and being glad I’m Canadian!

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    • I know exactly what you mean! If I awaken in the middle of the night, I cannot resist the urge to just do a quick check of the news on my phone. That, of course, is a mistake, for then sleep does not return easily. 🙂

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  8. The answer is a resounding “NO!” But, where do we go from there? You, along with several other bloggers, cover the Trump phenomena very well. As a blogger friend of mine said concerning my Trump tirades, “But, you are preaching to the choir.” She’s right. I love your posts and I pray that you find the wherewithal to continue. However, our preaching to the choir needs to translate into numbers at the polling places in 2018 and 2020. We are on the same page telling others how much we despise this man. We must show him, his billionaire friends, and his basketful of deplorables at the voting booths. Thanks for your zeal and fervor. Love your coverage.

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    • Thank you so much for your kind words!

      Yes, I often bemoan the fact that I am “preaching to the choir”, but I guess my hope is that maybe just one of my ideas gets through to somebody who ought to hear it and makes them just stop and think for a minute. I know that I do have readers who are not in the ‘choir’, though they rarely comment. In fact, I have removed a few comments from one of them due to vulgarity or extreme disrespect. Anyway, to the point, I do know of at least two cases where somebody said to me that I made them think about something from a different perspective, and that makes it all worthwhile. But at the end of the day, the reality is that my writing is a catharsis for me … it helps me to formulate my thoughts about what is happening in the world, forces me to research, to dig for answers, and gives me an outlet for my thoughts and frustrations. So, while I hope to make just a tiny difference, I also write for my own sake. Does that make any sense?

      Thank you for your insightful comment! I’m happy you discovered my blog!


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