♫ Still ♫

This was written by Lionel Richie for a couple who decided to end their marriage in order to save their friendship. Commodore’s member Lionel Richie got the idea for this song from the failing marriage of his childhood friend William “Smitty” Smith. After Smith’s marriage broke up the two buddies had a long conversation from 9:00 pm to sunrise in which they agreed that it’s better to divorce as friends rather than stay married and hate each other.

Lionel Richie

Lady, morning’s just a moment away
And I’m without you once again
You laughed at me, you said you’ve never needed me
I wonder if you need me now
We played the games that people play
We made mistakes along the way
Somehow I know deep in my heart, you needed me
Remembering the pain, if I must say
It’s deep in my mind and locked away
But then most of all, I do love you

Those memories, times I’m sure we’ll never forget
Those feelings we can’t put aside
For what we had, sometimes I try to understand
But it’s so heavy on my mind
So many dreams that flew away, so many words we didn’t say
Two people lost in a storm, where did we go, where’d we go?
Lost what we both had found, you know we let each other down
But then most of all, I do love you

We played the games that people play
We made our mistakes along the way
Somehow I know deep in my heart, you needed me
‘Cause I needed you so desperately
We were too blind to see, but then
Most of all, I do love you

Songwriters: Lionel Richie
Still lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

6 thoughts on “♫ Still ♫

  1. Hey Jill,
    I never paid much attention to the Commodores, or Lionel Ritchie. I wasn’t really into music at that time. But one line in this song takes me back to my own marriage, and how it ended.
    “You said you never needed me.” The words my then-wife said to me were, “I want to be with you, but I don’t need to be with you.” Those words cut me to my heart. We split up the next day because I could not understand them. I needed her, how could she not need me?
    It took a few years, but I finally came to understand them. Love does not “need” a person, but it does want to share life with a person. Unfortunately our culture teaches us to need the one we think we love, but really the opposite is true.
    I don’t know, had we stuck together, what would have happened, but likely we would have ended up hating each other. However, I don’t think I would ever have come to understand her words as long as I was with her. I lost the woman I loved the most over a stupid word, yet that word showed me the difference between true love, and imagined love.
    It is a sad commentary on what we teach our children… and ourselves.

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    • Thank you, my friend, for sharing that with me. You learned a lesson that I have preached to my daughter and granddaughter forever: Love and need are not the same thing — never let yourself ‘need’ another person so much that you are devastated without them. Need in a relationship can be so destructive, for it places a heavy burden of being responsible for somebody else’s happiness, for their very life. I have two friends, and every time she starts to leave him, he threatens suicide, so she feels an obligation and stays. The love has, I suspect, long since worn thin, for she stays out of obligation. I’m just sorry that your marriage ended as it does and that you’ve never found that sort of love again, although you and Gail seem to have a pretty good relationship and I can tell she cares a lot about you. Hugs!


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