I seem to be hearing the word ‘civil’ or ‘civility’ bandied about a lot lately, but while the word pops up frequently, the action seems to be slow to follow.  The republicans are worried that the democrats are becoming increasingly ‘uncivil’ … gee, I wonder why, after 21 months of being verbally brutalized by a bully and his cohorts!  But let’s look at a few things here …

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Governor Tom Wolf

Tom Wolf is the current governor of Pennsylvania, and from all indications is a good one, liked and respected by the people of Pennsylvania.  A man named Scott Wagner is running against Wolf this year on the republican ticket.  Here is the ‘civil’ tongue with which Wagner speaks: “Well, Governor Wolf, let me tell you what, between now and Nov. 6, you better put a catcher’s mask on your face, because I’m going to stomp all over your face with golf spikes.”  Civility?

The Metropolitan Republican Club of New York City recently hosted Gavin McInnes, founder of the white supremacist hate group Proud Boys.  After McInnes’ lecture on Otoya Yamaguchi, his ‘Proud Boys’ took to the streets, brutally beating and kicking several individuals while shouting “faggot” and “[expletive deleted].”  Civility?

Notable democrats are calling for their party to get tougher ahead of the mid-terms.

“It is time for us as Democrats to be as tough as they are, to be as dedicated as they are, to be as committed as they are.” – Former Attorney General Eric Holder

“You cannot be civil with a political party that wants to destroy what you stand for, what you care about.” – Former Secretary of State and 2016 Presidential Candidate, Hillary Clinton

Neither of these even remotely call for violence, they do not use foul or vulgar language, do not refer to stomping on someone’s face or encourage beatings.  They are simply calling on democrats to speak louder, to stand stronger.  And yet, here is what Donald Trump claims …

“You don’t hand matches to an arsonist and you don’t give power to an angry left-wing mob and that’s what the Democrats have become. They would turn our country so fast into Venezuela. And Venezuela’s not doing too well, folks.”

“The Democrats have become too extreme and too dangerous to govern.”

“Radical Democrats want to tear down our laws, tear down our institutions in pursuit of power, demolish our prosperity in the name of socialism and probably worse.”

“They want to destroy people. These are really evil people.”

Let me show you a few pictures of Trump’s ‘base’ at some of his rallies …

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Who are extreme and dangerous people?  Who, I ask, are trying to ‘tear down our laws, tear down our institutions in pursuit of power’?  Who constitutes an ‘angry mob’?

Both democrats and republicans are angry these days.  This is a result of the ‘man’ who began 2016 by inciting violence in his campaign rallies, even offering to pay legal fees of any who would use physical violence against peaceful protestors.  This is a result of the ‘man’ who constantly taunts not only his political foes, but the free and legitimate press, and any who dare to question or disagree with him.  The divisiveness in this country, the lack of civility, didn’t just happen – it was manufactured with a purpose.  It was manufactured using lies, smoke & mirrors, and already-existing tensions that were prodded to an even higher level.

And now that same ‘man’ is trying to convince his base, some 30% of the nation, that the democrats are evil, that they are dangerous, that they seek to harm him and his through ‘mob rule’, and that they must be stopped at all costs.  He is turning the word ‘democrat’ into something that has horribly frightening connotations in the minds of his minions.  He has even convinced some part of them that men are the real victims in sexual assault cases!  The ‘man’ seems to almost hypnotize the previously sane.

The worst mistake that democrats can make today would be to play into his hands, to allow peaceful protests to end in violence.  Democratic candidates must not play Trump’s game of using rude, crude and vulgar language, or calling for violence, or of being so anti-Trump that they forget to tell the people what they stand for.  The stakes are high in just over three weeks. It is so important that we all keep our eye on the ball and not allow ourselves to be goaded into lowering ourselves to the level of today’s more radical republicans.  I still ascribe to what Michelle Obama said, “When they go low, we go high”.

The most important things on the agenda of every candidate for the next three weeks must be: convincing people of the importance of their vote, maintaining civility under all circumstances, speaking loudly and clearly to communicate their platform as well as their values.  Democrats will not get the votes of avid, die-hard Trump supporters.  That is a fact, a foregone conclusion, so we need not even bother to try.  Tune them out and focus on those who may actually listen … and think. vote-animated

19 thoughts on “Civility???

  1. When I was but a child, Sunday Supper was an occasion for great food and discussion…not arguments, as my Father would say. We were encouraged to promote our views in turn and admonished to listen, before giving our input. I remember well that during more than one of our discussions, tempers would begin to flair and some harsh angry words would be spoken amongst us children. Quite calmly, as was his nature, my Father halted the altercations and would repeat these words : “It is acceptable to disagree, but not to be disagreeable. A wise mind keeps a civil tongue.” This lesson has served me well throughout my life. One would have to surmise that Trump did not learn this lesson, perhaps never heard it nor cares even if he did. Thank-you!

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    • As I read your comment, I couldn’t help but think how often your dad would have had to utter that admonishment in this Era of Trump, where just a single word can begin a verbal war! I’m sure Trump never heard that lesson … I don’t believe that ‘civility’ or ‘manners’ were a part of his upbringing!


  2. Your last paragraph spells out the formula for success this midterm cycle and in 2020. If the Democrats can follow it and keep their cool I think they have the potential to pick up quite a few seats. The key is party discipline. If they can maintain it by calling out incivility on their side and hammering away on the issues, as a united front, they can build the party brand in a positive way. It will pay much greater dividends long term than getting down in the mud with Trump and his crew.

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    • I fully agree, but … I’m seeing signs that they are falling into the trap of ‘tit-for-tat’, and that is not the answer. In the words of Thomas Paine, “These are the times that try men’s souls”. And women’s, I might add. 😉


  3. Dear Jill

    I’m sick and tired of peoples especially republicans attempting to equate women peacefully protesting to mob rule/ or their being a party to inciting violence, as he has been the inciter-in-chief at his own rallies.

    But I like Andrew Gillum’s response as he sidestepped this issue. He said that his Mama advised him not to get in a fight with a pig, as you’ll both get muddy, but the pig will love it.

    Stacy Adams of GA. didn’t even want to go there. She just said that since the inception of her campaign, she has focused on 3 issues, education, jobs and healthcare. She’s smart not to chase President Trump’s shiny new toy/ talking point.

    Here’s something Dem. candidates should ask their opponents:

    “What’s more uncivil,  Americans protesting or the GOP lawmakers denying/ ignoring the existence of climate change, as every new storm becomes more destructive and costly for average voters?

    What’s more uncivil, protesting for sensible gun control measures or not doing enough to protect our children as they attend school?

    Whats more uncivil, Americans protesting or the GOP lawmakers voting on 10/10/18 to end the previously mandated pre-existing health care coverage along with allowing the health insurance companies to sell junk healthcare policies?

    Hugs, Gronda

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    • Like you, Gronda, I am sick and tired of it, which is what prompted this post. We are not even talking apples-to-apples … there can be no legitimate comparison. But, if we so much as cough, the republicans will swear it was an attempt to take over the government.


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  4. Jill, I am weary of the uncivil modus operandi of the US President. He is untruthful more than he is not, he name calls and bullies both allies and people who are critical, he incites people at his rallies, he does not condemn the hate groups that support him.

    On the flip side, the Antifa folks have got to cool their jets as the five a much larger cause a bad nane. The same can be said for the anecdotes notes above by the first commenter.

    We have a lightning rod President who seeks to make too many issues contentious to sell his story. He seeks wedge issues.

    People on both sides of the aisle, should not get in a mud fight with the President is that is precisely what he wants. He cannot argue issues as he chooses not to study them and would prefer to make policy off simplistic bumper sticker solutions to more complex problems.

    Stick to the issues and hammer them home. Healthcare is important, job training important, climate change and the environment are important, not retrenching from global leadership is important, civil rights are important and the debt are important. Younger folks who may be reading this – you are being left holding the bag on climate change and debt. Keith

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    • I am weary of it also, my friend, as is Gronda and many of us. Trump is a bully, he hires people who are just like him, and he incites his masses to be bullies, but the democrats are ‘evil’ and ‘unfit to govern’. I admit that it makes it very difficult to keep a civil tongue in my head, and my computer and family take the brunt of my angst so that when I am out in public I can mostly smile at people and help them load their water into their carts and direct them to the frozen yoghurt.

      You are so right that we cannot get into a mudfest … which was half of the reason for this post, as a warning, an admonishment. The other half was because I am sick and tired of the b.s. But if we get down and wallow in the slop with Trump and his base, then WE LOSE.

      Issues and platform are the ticket, but … are the masses listening, or are they delighting in the mudfest? Sigh.


      • Jill, even Republicans are increasingly concerned by climate change, yet the US President said last night on “60 Minutes,” that it is a hoax and the effects will reverse themselves. Why do people believe this man is a conundrum which continues? What also concerns me is he cannot articulate what trade deficits mean and who they impact. Keith

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        • I surely wish I had an answer for your question, Keith. The only one I can come up with is that they are operating strictly on an emotional plane, not allowing deep thought processes, not allowing in any information that is not consistent with what they WANT to believe.


  5. What part of anything the democrats has done has been civil please? they didn’t need Holder to tell them to kick. They’ve been doing that for years! Even before Trump was elected! Are you seriously comparing a picture of someone giving the finger to Sarah Sanders or Ted Cruz getting kicked out of a restaurant or Rand Paul getting beat up at his house? Or Steve Scalise getting shot playing softball? No, please tell me where the civility from the liberals has been. Because as much as I’ve seen, It certainly hasn’t been around since W was in office.


  6. While in Texas, caring for my sister, I have been texting for Gillum. The responses… from some NPA’s turned Republicans…. has been astounding! I have been told to “DIE”!!!!! Seriously???? I have been called a “DUMBOCRAT”! The meaness, the lack of civility and the down right evil that he’s permeated our political arena, is heartbreaking! A simple message…. encouraging people to vote…. is met with such hostility!!!! All….fostered by trump!!!!! The pics you posted from his rallies….tells it all! I have not watched MSNBC for an entire week! That’s a first for me! My sister and I have watched our share of LAW and ORDER re-runs and HGTV. Nothing seems to be getting any better! As I have already told you…my glass is now half empty. I will return home and begin canvassing again and will continue to text for Gillum, while I’m here, but sadly…. I have become disheartened!

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    • Sigh. And this is exactly what’s wrong … they are so busy slinging insults and threats that they are missing the entire picture … they have NO idea what the policies of their “HERO” are doing! I had one a few months back who actually threatened to find me and kill me to “make the world a better place”. They get off on name-calling and bullying, for they cannot argue issues … they do not have the knowledge.

      The goal of Trump & Co is to dishearten us, to make us feel hopeless and ultimately give up the fight. Don’t succumb, my friend. Keep on fighting … it’s the only hope we have. ❤

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