♫ Kiss And Say Goodbye ♫

This song by The Manhattans is among the saddest I think I’ve ever heard.  That said, I’ve always liked the song, just maybe not the premise, for it makes me feel sad.  I had neither heard nor thought of this song in ages, but when I asked our friend David for some suggestions, this was one of his.  Since I also like it, I am playing it!

The Manhattans are a rhythm and blues vocal group from Jersey City who first formed in 1962 and have performed with changing membership since then. This moving song is about the end of a longtime love due to “obligations” and “ties.” He asks the woman he’s breaking up with to be stoic and remember him with love rather than falling apart and trying to stay together.

The song became The Manhattans biggest hit, reaching the top of the charts in the US and staying there for two weeks.  The song was written by group member Winfred Lovett, the bass singer and songwriter of the group.  He said in an interview that he envisaged Glen Campbell singing his tune …

“Back then I was into listening a lot to country things. Lionel Richie jumped the gun on me, but I had been listening for three or four years. I liked a lot of things Glen Campbell was doing… and Charley Pride.”

The lyrics and melody came to him late one night. As he later recalled …

“Everything was there. I got up about three o’clock in the morning and jotted down the things I wanted to say. I just put the words together on my tape recorder and little piano. I’ve always thought that when you write slow songs, they have to have meaning. In this case, it’s the love triangle situation we’ve all been through. I figured anyone who’s been in love could relate to it. And it seemed to touch home for a lot of folks.”

I have to admit that I was in tears by about the 2:40 point and had to turn it off.  I have enough worries right now without uber-sad songs … 😥

Kiss and Say Goodbye
The Manhattans

This has got to be the saddest day of my life
I called you here today for a bit of bad news
I won’t be able to see you any more
Because of my obligations
And the ties that you have
We’ve been meeting here every day
And since this is our last date together
I want to hold you just one more time
When you turn and walk away
Don’t look back I want to remember you just like this
Let’s just kiss
And say goodbye

I had to meet you here today
There’s just so many things to say
Please don’t stop me till I’m through
This is something I hate to do
We’ve been meeting here so long
I guess what we done was wrong
Please, darling, don’t you cry
Let’s just kiss and say goodbye
Many months have passed us by
I’m gonna miss you I can’t lie
I’ve got ties and so do you
I just think this is the thing to do
It’s gonna hurt me I can’t lie
Maybe you’ll meet another guy
Understand me won’t you try, try, try
Let’s just kiss and say goodbye

Songwriters: Winfred Lovett
Kiss and Say Goodbye lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

21 thoughts on “♫ Kiss And Say Goodbye ♫

  1. Jill, Jill, Jill! While I agree that this song is that now detested word “sad”, you need to go beyond the words and into the video. Having lived through the 70’s, I remember well those jumpsuits for men. What were they thinking?! Go back and let the music and singing slip into the background and immerse yourself in the choreography of this video as they move in those rather ill chosen form-fitting apparel. If you are not smiling out loud, you need to watch it again and allow hysteria to overtake you…it’s good for what ails you! I do love this song, honestly I do and sans the video it tells a woeful tale. I’ve always liked their 1973 single “Wish That You Were Mine” and my favorite song “Shining Star” of 1980. What is sorrowful is that not an original member of The Manhattans is alive. Apologies to David, I just could not help the much needed levity! Thank-you!

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    • Oh yeah … I remember those jumpsuits too, and I always thought they were disgusting. I think Elvis was the first person I ever saw one on, and Elton maybe the second. My angst over hearing this song was, I suppose, my mood of the moment. As I said in another comment a few minutes ago, the state of the world does take a toll on my emotional and physical well-being, and these days it doesn’t take much to bring on the tears. So, when I heard this song, I could picture … well, you get it. I will listen again tomorrow with the attitude you suggest and perhaps see it through different eyes. Tonight, however, it is nearing 3:00 a.m. and I still have work to get done. Sigh.


  2. ‘When you write slow songs, they have to have meaning.’ I do agree Winfred, and this has the deepest meaning of all. If you were in tears by 2.40 (Oooh you’re hard hearted waiting that long) you had to turn it off. Why? It’s the perfect way to get the misery out of your system ready to come out fighting the other side.There are times only sad records will do, when that time comes, this is my first turn to song.

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    • I didn’t say that the tears only started at 2:40, but rather that is when I noticed them. Why did I turn it off? Because I was imagining somebody saying that to me, and … I just couldn’t … the image became too real, too sad. I know you turn to sad music when you are down, but I turn to more upbeat songs, figuring a bit of toe tapping might bring me back up out of the rabbit hole.


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  3. A sad song, definitely, but the situation itself is sad. I always turned to Gene Pitney after a break-up. He had a lot of sad songs, including Half Heaven, Half Heartache; Only Love Can Break A Heart; Last Chance to Turn Around; I’m Gonna Be Strong; and others. But of all the sad songs I can think of at the moment, my saddest are I Can’t See Nobody by the Bee Gees, and Kaw-Li-Ga by Hank Williams Sr.

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    • What is it with you guys liking sad songs when you’re already sad? I want something that makes me want to dance, something that lifts my spirits, instead of dragging me further down.


      • Wrap yourself in your sadness, experience it, understand it, accept it. Being sad is not a time to fight sadness, it is a time to grieve. Wallow in it. It will make you stronger.

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        • Perhaps if I lived in a cocoon, that might work. But, when one has to put on a reasonably happy persona for others, then wallowing in it makes that pretty near impossible. Plus … I know from experience that I can sometimes talk myself out of sadness by pushing it aside, doing something physical like cleaning or walking, and refusing to give into it. Sometimes that works, other times …. not so much.


          • But how do you learn to understand sadness if you push it away. The way we live life, sadness is an integral part of us. Maybe you were a mother before you had your first real experience with sadness, that might help me understand your reluctance to wallow in it. But I cannot imagine that. Most people suffer some kind of break-up during their teen years, whether it is loss of a best friend, or loss of a loved one (up to and including death). Humans are going through their greatest tragedies in teenhood, mostly because they are just finding out how real their emotions are. Joy and sadness are heightened compared to later in life.
            But that is just speculation. I understand most people do not want to face sadness anytime. But yet it is necessary to become a complete person. We learn through experience, so why not go full out.
            I always went full out. I experienced great love, and I experienced great sorrow. I’m pretty sure I am a better person for it.
            But that is me.

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            • No, I learned deep sadness at a very early age. But, what I have found over the years is that it is dangerous for me to give in to it, to allow it to dominate my mood, for when I do, then I go to bed at night wishing not to awaken in the morning, wondering if a triple dose of insulin would solve that. You and many others I know, are able to work through your sadness and come out somehow having gained insight, but for me, if I give in to it, I will cease to exist, so I must fight against it.


                • Thank you, dear friend. I shall keep existing as long as I think that I can do something positive in this world, and as long as I can keep pushing the sadness out. I think often I turn my sadness into anger, which isn’t a necessarily healthy emotion, but it keeps me sane. Well … relatively sane. 😉 Yes, I have your email address … thank you. 🤗


                  • At least it helps get the emotion out. It isn’t nice, I agree, but it’s better than keeping it bottled up.
                    (My father expressed his anger through violence. I taught myself to bottle anger up, I would not allow myself to be like him. When I was in my late 30s I started having serious medical problems. I was finally diagnosed with ulcerative colitis. But it wasn’t till some weird doctor asked me how I handled various emotions. When he finally asked about anger, and I said I don’t let myself get angry, he gave me my diagnosis right there, and subsequent tests proved him right. Bottling emotions is downright dangerous!)
                    However you have to express them, Jill, do it. Tje consequences can be life-threatening.

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