♫ Just When I Needed You Most ♫

A bit of angst tonight, worried about a friend, and so my mind is somewhat jumbled … yeah, yeah, I know … when isn’t my mind jumbled, right?  So anyway, I was in the shower a bit ago, around 1:00 a.m., and I found myself literally belting this one out … which, I am hoping didn’t wake my daughter, who has to get up at 5:00 a.m. to go to work!

Randy VanWarmer wrote this when he was just 18, after being dumped by a girl.

VanWarmer was living in England when he wrote this song. About five years later, he landed a record and publishing deal with Albert Grossman’s Bearsville Records and moved to Woodstock, New York, where the label was located, to record his first album. The first song he recorded there was Your Light, with Just When I Needed You Most as the B-side. Bearsville saw a lot more hit potential in Just When I Needed You Most, so they made that the A-side. It was a good choice: the song went to #4 on the Hot 100 and #1 on the Adult Contemporary chart.

VanWarmer died in 2004 at age 48 after a battle with leukemia.

Just When I Needed You Most
Randy VanWarmer

You packed in the morning, I stared out the window
And I struggled for something to say
You left in the rain without closing the door
I didn’t stand in your way

But I miss you more than I missed you before
And now where I’ll find comfort, god knows
‘Cause you left me just when I needed you most
Left me just when I needed you most

Now most every morning, I stare out the window
And I think about where you might be
I’ve written you letters that I’d like to send
If you would just send one to me

‘Cause I need you more than I needed before
And now where I’ll find comfort, God knows
‘Cause you left me just when I needed you most
Left me just when I needed you most

You packed in the morning, I stared out the window
And I struggled for something to say
You left in the rain without closing the door
I didn’t stand in your way

Now I love you more than I loved you before
And now where I’ll find comfort, God knows
‘Cause you left me just when I needed you most
Oh yeah, you left me just when I needed you most
You left me just when I needed you most

Songwriters: Randy Van Warmer
Just When I Needed You Most lyrics © Warner Chappell Music, Inc

36 thoughts on “♫ Just When I Needed You Most ♫

  1. What a wonderful song! I definitely “LIKE” this but WP happiness engineers are at it again, won’t allow any likes or reblogs… the whole like section is missing! Anyone else experiencing this problem with the Likes button?

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  2. I am not surprised that you finally came upon my song without my assistance, just that you had not come upon it sooner! I remember so well when this song came out as a single in February of 1979. This was in the early part of the unravelling of a life that I was desperately trying to hold together, to no avail. Upon the release of VanWarmer’s debut album “Warmer”, also in 1979, it was purchased as a cassette and played on my old Philips cassette player/recorder that was showing its wear. In late 1979, in a fit of pique, I took the sum of $175 from our savings account and gifted myself with a brand new Sony Walkman…total aside, but I was the only one of us putting money into the savings account. How I loved that blue and silver piece of heaven, rebellion felt so good. But, I digress. If you only own one of Randy VanWarmer’s albums, “Warmer” is the one to choose. There are 9 other songs on that album that never reached anywhere near the acclaim that I feel they deserve. “Forever Loving You”, “Gotta Get Out of Here”, “Losing Out on Love”, “The One Who Loves You” and your featured song are the ones that I sang along with Randy, most times shedding buckets of tears as well. The Sony Walkman is somewhere amidst my Son’s stash of memorabilia. The cassette plays on to this day, in recent years on the oldest of my two Bose Wave radios…that one has a cassette and CD player, the newer one only plays CD’s. Thank-you!! P.S. The wasted tears dried up decades ago! Excuse me, I have a cassette that wants to be played and appreciated!

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    • AHA!!! So, this is the song you have been alluding to, is it? ‘Twas quite by accident that I played this one, you know … it literally just popped into my head! I am glad to know the tears dried up decades ago and that my post didn’t cause a flood in your house last night, but am so sorry for what you went through way back when. Enjoy the cassette, my friend. Hugs! ❤

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  3. Relationships are very funny things, but there is one thing my ex-wife taught me which I have never forgotten. Love is not about need, though I grew up thinking it was. Need puts a burden on a partner. I will be with someone because I want to be with them, not because I need to be with them. Want is love, need is possession. That is what she taught me.

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    • That is one thing I somehow seem to have known from a very early age, fortunately. It probably saved me a lot of heartbreak. I’ve always felt that to hold somebody else accountable for your happiness places a tremendous burden on that other person and ultimately likely dooms the relationship.

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      • It doomed my marriage, cuz I wasn’t ready to hear it from her. Maybe for a guy it is different, I don’t know, but I was more or less brought up to be needed by a woman, so that is what I expected. When my wife first said that to me I was devastated. By the time I understood it, we had already split.
        Live and learn.

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        • Part of the problem in the world of humans is that they often have trouble differentiating between “need” and “want”. Our needs, if you think about it, are actually very few. Water, air, food, shelter. All else falls under the category of ‘want’, but we often mistake them for ‘needs’. At least, that is the opinion of this bare-bones pragmatist. I am guilty of the same, however. I “need” another onion for tonight’s soup, or I “need” new socks … sigh.

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            • Awww … how very kind of you! A medium Vidalia or red onion would have been perfect, but the soup is now done, has been eaten twice, and there is still about a quart left in the fridge! Thanks anyway. 😊

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              • Gail thinks you would probably have preferred a leek? She tells me a Vidalia is a squat fat onion from Washington, but doesn’t think that’s what you mean, she thinks they are too sweet for soup.. Red onions are basically only used in fresh salads up here, we hardly ever see them in regular grocery stores. She thinks what you call Vidalias might be what we call white onions, which are not too popular either. We use yellow onions ourselves, which are quite sharp. We like our tongues to tingle, lol.

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                • Not this time, although I do make a potato-leek soup on occasion with … leeks and potatoes! It’s a creamy soup using both buttermilk and heavy cream. But this was a veggie-beef soup, so really just any ol’ onion would work. Vidalia onions originated in Vidalia, Georgia, hence the name. I like them because they are sweeter and milder than most other yellow onions. Red onions are mostly for salads here, too, but I like them on pizza, and when I make roasted veggies, I like to use reds.

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                    • Ahhhh … come fall, you must roast some veggies … carrots, acorn or butternut squash, redskin ‘taters, zucchini, red onions … lots of sea salt and cracked pepper … to die for!

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                    • Gail also mentioned she would like your recipe for potato/leek soup, if you have one. I myself never use recipes, just throw in whatever looks good.
                      But I am very sad this summer. My favourite soup/stew vegetable is parsnip, and the stores don’t have any this year, not even in the city. Did the crop fail? Or are farmers not growing them anymore. If the latter, I don’t care if Trump blows up the world.
                      We are growning our own parsnips next year.

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                    • I will email you the recipe. I’m like you, I largely view cooking as an art, not a science, so I use recipes as sort of a suggestion, then add or delete or alter things as I see fit. The Potato-Leek soup turned out really good the first time, so I don’t mess with it much, just add some extra pepper and scallions.

                      Y’know … in all my 68 years I have never once tasted a parsnip! They do have them in the stores here, for I saw some a few days ago … wish I could send you some!

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                    • Never? Don’t feel alone. I turned a town of Mennonites here in nothern Alberta on to them a few years ago. I made a chicken stew with parsnips in it, and everyone wanted the recipe, which I of did not have. You have to watch how many you use, two or three to a pot of stew. The flavour can overwhelm if you use too many. Don’t peel them, just chop off the tops and bottoms (if they are starting to soften up) and throw them in with your own soup or stew. For a newcomer to the taste, start slow.
                      They also go good in a roasted vegetable dish, such as you designed yesterday.
                      But if you don’t like strong flavours, stay away. Parsnips make a statement.

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                    • LoL. I thought you would never ask. I’m sure you know, unless you have an inflammable tongue, that every drag you take on a lit cigarette burns a bit of the taste buds, and you eventually lose the more subtle taste flavours. Parsnips don’t care. That flavour comes through loud and clear. It wakes up my taste buds every time, and I have not smoked since 1984, or so. That’s all.
                      Now, mind you, you have an inflammable tongue when it comes to Trump and his psychophants, but that’s good.
                      Stupid word inflammable. It contradicts itself without even trying. Only in English, I presume.

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                    • Ahhhh … yes, now I get the connection! I have noticed that food has less taste these days. And Miss Goose often gently tells me that “next time, maybe a little less salt?” 😉
                      Yes, the English language has several words that seem to contradict themselves … they often send me to the dictionary to make sure I’m using them properly. Sigh. Everything has to be complicated.

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                    • Maybe something to try when cooking. Believe it or not! A recent research program found that the human body tastes things more completely when sitting down, as opposed to standing up (over a stove). Miss Goose might appreciate that more, LMHO.
                      I’m not joking.

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                    • Seriously??? I cannot think of a single physiological reason for that, but … I don’t doubt you for a minute. I have 3 chairs in the kitchen, not counting the rocking chair, so I suppose I could try sitting down next time I am tasting for salt. I’ve taken to just under-salting, and then adding sea salt to my own portion!

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                    • They said something about more pressure on the heart when a person was standing, but I don’t remember exactly. The whole thing sounded like gobbledygook to me, but they mentioned a couple of US universties, Soutern Cal, was one, I think.

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                    • Still in the bowl on the kitchen table 🙂 I don’t put garlic in my roasted veggies, but one could, I suppose. I usually only use garlic when cooking something Italian.

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