Musings From The Rabbit Hole — Trust

One of the things about spending large quantities of time in the ‘rabbit hole’ is that one lies awake at night pondering on such things as trust, respect, responsibility, honesty, humanity and whether there are enough lemons in the fridge to make lemon chicken for supper tomorrow.

Trust.  It’s a funny thing … one may spend a lifetime earning the trust of others, yet it can be shattered in a single moment.  How many people do you trust … I mean, really trust as in you would trust them with your life?  I’m guessing you can count them on one hand … I can, and I would still have a thumb left over.  How many people trust you in that way? trust-1When we speak of trust in the broader sense, of trusting people who hold our well-being in their hands, it’s a bit different than trust on the more personal level.  We should be able to trust these people … our members of Congress, state governors, police officers, and certainly the president and his minions … to at least make the best possible decisions based on the information they have for the good of the whole.  None of us will be pleased with every decision that comes out of any administration.  As much as I admire and respect President Obama, there were times I disagreed with his decisions.  However, I always felt that he was listening to his advisors, was studying every situation and staying well-informed, and that at the end of the day, he made what he thought to be the right decision for the nation as a whole.  I have felt that way about nearly every president this nation has had in my 69 years, both republican and democrat.  Until the current one.

Trust is important in any relationship, parent-child, husband-wife, teacher-student, employer-employee.  It is equally important that the people of any nation be able to trust their chosen leaders to be honest, to tell them the truth as much as possible, and to make decisions that take into account the entire nation, not just a few.  Leaders will make mistakes, for they rarely have perfect information on which to base their decisions.  But, when leaders lie to the people, the bond of trust is broken and is unlikely to ever be restored.  This is what happened with Richard Nixon in 1974.  But even worse than Nixon’s lies are those of Donald Trump, for his entire administration is filled with the most corrupt and dishonest people in the nation.  There can be no trust in a ‘man’ who has been caught in over 20,000 lies in just over three years and has hired people who have been almost equally dishonest.trust-3How do we trust a ‘man’ who told us the coronavirus was just a minor thing, nothing to worry about, really … when a short six months later more than 180,000 of our friends, family and neighbors have died from it?  How can we possibly be expected to trust an administration that has spent money we didn’t have for frivolous things, all the while giving special perks to the very wealthy people who don’t even know we exist?  How do we trust a ‘man’ who cozies up to dictators, who asks foreign nations to help him cheat in an election?  How can we trust an administration that has turned its back on the most important global issues that affect all our lives:  the environment, the pandemic, and systemic racism?

How do we trust a ‘man’ who has spent his entire adult life lying, cheating, discriminating, breaking the law, and stealing?  How do we trust a ‘man’ who claims credit for things he did not do, and refuses to accept responsibility for those he did do?  How do we trust a ‘leader’ who represents less than half the people of the nation and spends his days denigrating the rest?  How do we trust a person who praises racists and bullies good people?

I could go on and on, but I think I’ve made myself clear … when we elect a person, whether a member of Congress, president, or city councilman, we expect … we have a clear right to expect … that person to act in our best interests.  We give that person a certain level of trust simply by voting for him or her.  But, when they act in their own best interests, causing us financial ruin, job loss, loss of homes and in some cases loss of our very lives, that trust is gone.  Forever. trust-2Trust.  A small word, but so filled with meaning.  The breaches of our trust since January 20th, 2017 have been so numerous and so deadly that it amazes me to find that some people do, in fact, still trust the current occupant of the White House.  To them, apparently truth, honesty and integrity do not matter.  To me, without them there can be no trust.  Today, I have neither trust nor respect for anyone in the administration whose salaries I help pay.  Damn shame, isn’t it?

29 thoughts on “Musings From The Rabbit Hole — Trust

  1. Great insights, Jill. I suppose I’ve been fortunate in having learned distrust of our government and its politicians when I was a young warrior during the 1960s and 70s. I don’t expect much from them and during these times I am not disappointed. But now, as you have said, even friends and family have dropped into the ‘WTF’ category. If I did not trust an inner Truth, I should probably do well to commit myself to the nearest institution for society’s fallen ‘throw-a-ways’. On the plus side….people are stopping by the house to give “attaboys” to us for the Biden/Harris signs in the yard. Maybe there is hope in this county.

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    • Thanks, Larry! Sigh. Yeah, I’ve always known that you cannot ever fully trust any politician, but I have never, not even under Richard Nixon, seen the level of corruption we have in our government today. It is … overwhelming, for lack of a better word. It has me asking questions that … I don’t much like the answers to. But hey! I am thrilled that you guys are getting positive reactions from your Biden/Harris signs! I was afraid you might wake up one morning to busted windows … or worse. Thumbs up to you both!

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          • Jim is enjoying the notoriety…..passersby either lay on the horn (mostly pickup trucks) in disapproval or give a short series of toot, toot, toot in approval. His son is a die-hard trumper – makes for interesting front porch conversations. Try to get your signs from your county Democratic headqtrs – the money you donate goes to the Party.

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            • Have you kept tabs of the number of long horns of disapproval vs the short toots of approval? I’d be interested to see which is dominant! Thanks for the advice! I was going to order from Amazon, but I will get them from the Democratic headquarters now!

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              • No, no tally is being kept. Had a long discussion with the son today resulting in us formulating plans A & B on November 4th. The son is convinced the DEMs (he calls them antifa) will riot in the streets if trump wins, and I am convinced REPUKEs will so the same if Biden wins. Jim and I are getting bags packed🤣😁 and updating necessary traveling IDs. Do cats need visas?

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                • Most of the analyses I’ve read say we won’t have a final tally until several days after the election, but that likelihood is Trump will appear to have won on the 4th, for most republicans will vote in person, but then as the mail-in ballots are counted, the results will change. I don’t envision a large protest, and certainly not a riot if Biden loses, for that just isn’t typically the way Democrats do things, but the right has been showing itself to be violent with a mob mentality, so if (PLEASE!!!!) Trump loses, yes I fully expect bloodshed in the streets! You and Jim stay home with the doors locked!!! Sigh. Who would have thought this nation could go so low?

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  2. It saddens me to say that these days I trust no one outside of my immediate family as even some of my closest friends have shown themselves to be less than sensible or responsible. It’s a very distressing way to go through life. As for me, most people I know who are friend or acquaintance know they can trust me. I am pretty straight up about my feelings and how I stand in most situations. While the truth is often painful, Recovering from alie is an endless process.

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    • Like you, I have been disappointed in many friends, people I’ve known for decades, worked with for years. Even most family members have disappointed me. These are people I really thought I knew, but all of a sudden they are supporting a racist madman and cannot even seem to explain why. I’ve written a number of people off, for I simply cannot call anyone who supports the things Trump stands for, a ‘friend’.

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  3. Two years ago during one of my monthly book swaps, I came across a 1999 paperback copy of a book written by Sissela Bok in 1978 “Lying : Moral Choice in Public and Private Life.” The cover of the book and then the inside cover caught my attention for two reasons : 1) Trump…already then known for incessant lying. 2) The original having been published 40 years prior seemed prescient. I returned the book after reading it as it seemed that others should also have the opportunity to read it too. After that I found a copy online and purchased the book and it has since been widely shared. Something that I highlighted in my copy, and may have previously shared on another post, pertains to this post. “Trust and integrity are precious resources, easily squandered, hard to regain. They can thrive only on a foundation of respect and veracity.” Trump has never inspired trust due in great part to his notable lack of veracity. Thank-you! P.S. I mourn the loss of my monthly book swap!!

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    • That quote is beyond perfect! I may look into that book, but then again, it might make me want to throw it through a window as I compare it to the current occupant of the Oval Office! A book swap … that sounds like great fun! You and Miss I have something similar going, only on a much smaller scale. ❤

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  4. A great post!!!! Funny….we’ve never met and yet I trust you! You are one of my five peeps ….who I feel that I can trust! Hope you can spend some time out of the Rabbit Hole today, if only to take in some clean air and sunshine! Sending refreshing thoughts and positive energy, at this most difficult of times! Love and hugs! 💙

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    • Thank you, Patty! That is, I think, the highest compliment I’ve ever received!

      If only we had some clean air … the air quality has been the pits here all summer and today is no exception. I’m actually looking forward to winter, when maybe we’ll be able to breathe the air outdoors!

      Thank you so much for the refreshing thoughts and positive energy … I need all I can get these days! Love you, my dear friend! ❤

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  5. Jill, it is very hard to trust someone who believes perception is more important than reality. The sad question to ask – is the US president delusional or a liar? When he says things that simply are not true – the world envies our COVID-19 response, China pays the tariffs we place imports, or Trump signed the VA Healthcare Choice Act, e.g. – is he making it up or is he delusional. I do think has issues with lack of studying or reading briefings. Communication is a two way street; the audience has to listen rather than cut up in the back of class.

    So, we must start with he does not know a lot about history or context. Yet, saying he has been asked by India to broker a peace deal with Pakistan was just fantasy and denied by India within an hour. But, at the heart of Donald Trump is a very untruthful person. There are too many that have known who have said so, plus the data supports this assertion.

    The sad part is his untrustworthiness has made the US untrustworthy. And, that is what matters. Keith

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    • True … the sad part is we are no longer trusted or respected, and who will come to our aid if Trump declares himself a dictator? Nobody, I fear. I’m trying to think of a single time he told the truth about something, but nothing is coming to mind.

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      • Jill, even when the truth works in his favor, he has to embellish and make it better. His small role has to be made larger. A reporter for Trump once said, Trump does not do deals, his people do the deals, he just signs them. Keith

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        • I happened upon a clip of him on the Letterman Show from 2013, and … it was like an almost different Donald Trump! He almost … not quite, but almost … seemed human! And, he said nice things about then-President Obama! I nearly fell off of my chair! I know he was a nasty dude even back then, but at least he knew how to communicate without ranting and acting imbecilic!

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  6. There is always hope. We just don’t know what tomorrow will bring. It’s not set in stone. It could be more if the same, yes it could be worse but it could be better. There is still plenty of good out there. Yes there is hope. Having said that it doesn’t stop me being a grumpy sod….

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    • At the moment, I agree there is always hope, but frankly, if Trump is re-elected in November, I think there will be very little hope left for this nation. And we’ll blame you being a ‘grumpy sod’ on BoJo, just as we’ll blame me being one on Trumpie. 😉

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  7. So, now that your trust has been ripped right out of your chest, forever, why is it you spend so much time, energy, love, compassion, etc., trying to preserve what has forever been broken–according to your own feelings, etc. I know, you believe if you can get rid of one man, maybe two, well, be honest Jill, maybe 136,000,000 American people, you can repair what you just told me is irreparably destroyed. That is faith on a huge scale–but where has faith ever been successful. For the main, I have faith in only one thing in this lifetime, and that is chaos, the fact that the only constant is change.
    Why are you killing yourself over what you know will happen? Faith is infallible, the only thing you can count on when faith comes knocking is the defeat of hope, and ultimately the destruction of life.
    You also care. So do I. If I were you, and you were my counsellor, honestly, what would you tell me? What should you be telling yourself?

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