One Man’s Courage

Ever since I first heard of John Fetterman, when he was running for the seat he currently holds in the U.S. Senate, I’ve admired the man.  He has courage, intellect, and humanity – things his opponent in that race lacked.  Senator Fetterman has been through a lot, and today Dan Rather’s piece gives him the respect he has earned, as well as reminding us that mental health issues deserve to be treated with empathy and compassion, not as a stigma.


A Different Politician’s Story

A plea for healing

Dan Rather and Elliot Kirschner

04 April 2023

Today the news offers wall-to-wall coverage of a politician — a former president — who is duplicitous, divisive, and vainglorious. 

He is a weak man incapable of admitting to any personal fault or struggle. He is quick to blame others for any impediment he faces. He excuses his own failings. He demonizes his political opponents and weaponizes their “othering.”

These character flaws may have finally caught up with him in a court of law. We shall see. If you want more coverage of these developments, you can find them elsewhere today. In truth, almost everywhere else. 

But here at Steady we want to offer a counternarrative. We also have a story about a politician, but it’s not about sordid allegations or court proceedings. It’s not even about policy or politics, per se. 

It’s about health, humanity, and healing. And it’s about that fickle but essential aspiration: hope. 

On April 1, U.S. Senator John Fetterman of Pennsylvania was discharged from Walter Reed hospital after a six-week stay to treat depression. Fetterman apparently has struggled with the disease for years, but it became worse in the wake of a stroke that nearly derailed his 2022 campaign. He now says his depression is in remission.

During the last election season, concerns about Fetterman’s physical health were widespread as he publicly navigated the difficult rehabilitation of a stroke victim. His Republican opponent, the TV doctor Mehmet Oz, made questions about Fetterman’s health a major line of attack (something we wrote about in a Steady column, “Fitness to Serve”).

At the time, we wondered about the very definition of fitness:

“Perhaps this idea of how we measure fitness is too limited. Are people who deny the results of the 2020 election fit for elective office? What about politicians who embrace lies, stoke division, and foment violence? Many doctors and scientists have warned that Oz, Fetterman’s opponent, has spread dangerous medical misinformation. How should that be factored into assessing fitness?”

And we noted that covering questions of fitness was of special concern for the press: 

“Judging medical fitness is legitimate, but are we providing the audience a nuanced understanding, or are we playing into stereotypes?”

In the end, the voters of Pennsylvania chose Fetterman by nearly 5 points. It was considered a tremendous victory and framed as a personal triumph for a candidate beset by such obvious physical ailments. 

We now know that it didn’t feel like a triumph for Fetterman, who was privately struggling with a second serious disease. 

This Sunday, Fetterman told the story of his depression to Jane Pauley on the CBS News program “Sunday Morning.” It is an emotional journey, and we share the piece here:

(Note: In the past some Steady readers outside of the United States had trouble accessing a “Sunday Morning” piece. We apologize if that’s the case once again. Please let us know.)

It has been heartening to see that the coverage of Fetterman’s treatment for depression has been different from the reaction to his stroke. By and large, he has received bipartisan well wishes and the support of his constituents. 

This is why Fetterman’s story is even bigger than the very big senator (he stands 6′8″) from the Keystone State. 

Millions of Americans suffer from depression. It can destroy lives and lead to suicide. Now there are indications that the pandemic has exacerbated mental illness across the country, including depression. This trend is especially acute in children. 

Historically, depression has also carried much stigma. And shame. And misunderstanding. This adds to the damage it can inflict in the shadows. 

If we are going to make headway, we need to face depression and other mental illnesses with honesty and empathy. It is a major service when someone of Fetterman’s stature courageously shares their story. Those who suffer similarly can feel seen and may be encouraged to seek help. The millions more who know a friend or loved one afflicted with this horrible illness can feel part of a broader community of support. 

Part of what makes depression so frustrating is that it seems to make no sense. Someone like Fetterman, who seemed to have it all — a loving family and a major professional success — can feel lost even at a moment when he should feel exhilarated. He checked himself into the hospital on his son’s birthday.

Regardless of what one may think of Fetterman’s politics, we should all wish him continued recovery for both his mental and physical ailments. It is a benefit to our nation to have people with his experiences in our government. There is a notion that politicians are supposed to be poised almost to the point of perfection. But we know they are human and subject to the same vices, biases, and illnesses as the rest of us. 

We need for our leaders to understand the struggles of their fellow citizens, and there are few better foundations for this kind of understanding than shared lived experiences. This is especially important when it comes to mental health. It’s okay for people to not be okay. And we can all work for a government more responsive to the needs of its people. 

Fetterman is set to return to the Senate on April 17. He will find Republican colleagues who also have made mental health a major priority. Hopefully we can continue to see a bipartisan path to progress. And health. And hope. 

Beautifully Strange Poem …

It seems to me that these days some people are mighty quick to judge others.  They judge us by the colour of our skin, by whether we attend the same church as them, by where our ancestors hail from, by our level of education or the field in which we work, they judge us by our sexual orientation — who we choose to love — and by our political affiliation.  All this judging … and for what?  I am no better than you, nor you than me.  It is our actions, the way we treat others, that determine who we are, not the colour of our skin or our political party!  This has weighed heavily on my mind of late, for I, too, am judged and seemingly found to be lacking by many.  And last night, as I was preparing for bed, leaving one last quick message for a beloved friend on Facebook, something caught my eye.  You may remember back in March, when I posted a lovely poem by Laura Ding-Edwards, titled The Mountain.  This is another by her that I think speaks volumes.  Titled Beautifully Strange Poem, it is “A poem about living with mental illness, the importance of being kind and the beauty of our uniqueness.”

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Psychiatrists Warning About President’s Mental Health

A new book was released last Tuesday, 03 October, that should be required reading for every U.S. citizen/voter. The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump was written by 27 psychiatrists, psychologists and other mental health professionals and is a study of Trump’s behaviour and words, and they make the case that “he presents a clear and present danger to the nation and our own mental health”. Friend Gronda has written a post covering an interview with one of the book’s authors and renowned journalist Bill Moyer’s. Please take a few minutes to read this interview, for it provides much food for thought. Thank you, Gronda, for this post and your always generous permission to re-blog.

Gronda Morin

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Twenty-seven psychiatrists, psychologists and mental health experts have written a book regarding the mental health of the republican President Donald Trump. Their argument for acting counter to the rule of not publicly providing a mental health diagnosis for anyone without having first met with that individual, is that they have a duty to warn the public if a person presents a clear and present danger to others. They indicate that the president fits this category.

Here’s the rest of the story….

On September 24, 2017, Bill Moyers approved the publication of the following report by Mother Jones penned the following report, “A Group of Experts Wrote a Book About Donald Trump’s Mental Health—and the Controversy Has Just Begun.” (Bill Moyers talks to co-author Robert Jay Lifton about the complications of diagnosing the president.)

“There will not be a book published this fall more urgent, important, or controversial than 

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The New 1% Disease

There’s a new disease on the block, and apparently it is highly lethal, particularly for those who come in contact with a carrier of this disease.  The bad news is that those who suffer from it are not likely to be cured any time soon.  The good news is that most of us (99%) stand absolutely no chance of catching it.  Not Ebola, not HIV, but a disease called “Affluenza”.  Okay, I see the eyeroll and I see that you think I am making this up, but trust me, although the American Medical Association (AMA) has not yet recognized this disease, nor has the World Health Organization (WHO), the courts of the United States do recognize this disease as a legal defense for almost anything, including murder.  The following news article in the New York Times caught my eye this morning:

 

“Two years ago, a Texas teenager who killed four people in a drunken-driving crash was given probation after a defense witness suggested he suffered from “affluenza,” a term used to describe psychological problems that can afflict children from wealthy families.”  http://www.nytimes.com/2015/12/17/us/ethan-couch-missing-texas-affluenza-case.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&_r=1#story-continues-2

 

Unless you happen to be in the top 1% on the wealth spectrum, your reaction is likely similar to the one I had … disbelief, anger, disbelief, fury, and more disbelief.  I re-checked the source … yep, The New York Times, not The Onion.  So I went in search of … and here is just a sampling of the definitions I found for this affliction:

  • “a portmanteau of affluence and influenza, is a term used by critics of consumerism. The 2001 book Affluenza: The All-Consuming Epidemic defines it as “a painful, contagious, socially transmitted condition of overload, debt, anxiety, and waste resulting from the dogged pursuit of more.” The term “affluenza” has also been used to refer to an inability to understand the consequences of one’s actions because of financial privilege … “ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affluenza
  • the unhealthy and unwelcome psychological and social effects of affluence regarded especially as a widespread societal problem: such as a :  feelings of guilt, lack of motivation, and social isolation experienced by wealthy b :  extreme materialism and consumerism associated with the pursuit of wealth and success and resulting in a life of chronic dissatisfaction, debt, overwork, stress, and impaired relationships <Affluenza is particularly rampant in the United States, where we place a high priority on financial success and material possessions. — David Hawkins, Breaking Everyday Addictions, 2008>   http://beta.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/affluenza
  • A social condition arising from the desire to be more wealthy, successful or to “keep up with the Joneses”. Affluenza is symptomatic of a culture that holds up financial success as one of the highest achievements. People said to be affected by affluenza typically find that the very economic success they have been so vigorously chasing ends up leaving them feeling unfulfilled, and wishing for yet more wealth. http://www.investopedia.com/terms/a/affluenza.asp

 

Awwwww … I feel so sorry for the wealthy now, don’t you?

In the above case, the afflicted teen first stole two cases of beer from a store, then stole his father’s pickup truck, then with seven passengers in tow, driving 70mph in a 40mph zone, crashed into an SUV and a Volkswagen, killing four people.  Ethan and all seven of his passengers, none of whom were wearing seat belts, walked away from the crash.  Eric Boyles, whose wife and daughter were killed in the crash, said, “Had he not had money to have the defense there, to also have the experts testify, and also offer to pay for the treatment, I think the results would have been different.”  No doubt, Mr. Boyles, no doubt.

 

I am not one to mock or deny mental illness.  I have very good friends who suffer from various ailments, and while I don’t claim to understand, I accept that they are very real illnesses and I have compassion and empathy.  I draw the line here, though.  I do not accept that “affluenza” is a real illness!  A better name for this so-called affliction, I believe, would be SBS … Spoiled Brat Syndrome … and the cure should be enforced living in a homeless shelter with no contact from family or friends for a period of no less than two years.

 

This is the “disease” that republicans are fighting to propagate!  I have never been financially wealthy, am not presently financially wealthy, nor will I ever be financially wealthy, and I am GLAD!  I am wealthy in the ways that matter … I have a wonderful and supportive family, I have a roof over my head, healthy food on my table and am able to pay my bills so I can have heat in the winter.  I worked hard all my life to have what little I have, and for me, it has always been enough.  Trump, Romney and their cohorts can keep the wealth if it only leads to “affluenza”.  I will gladly continue to live my life of relative poverty, taking responsibility for my own actions, taking joy in small things like a warm cat in my lap, a chat with good friends, a hug …